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If you want to become a better communicator, it’s important to become more sensitive not only to the body language and nonverbal cues of others, but also to your own.
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“Talk low, talk slow, and don’t talk too much.” John Wayne
When was the last time you watched a John Wayne movie? A lot of communication truths are clearly illustrated in those Westerns starring a young John Wayne. Wayne rose to stardom in action movies (mostly Westerns) as a slow talking cowboy that the town could trust to do the right thing.
In your relationships with people at work, you may have to correct their behavior, postpone listening during clinic hours, or in some way disappoint them. To avoid unintentionally creating misunderstandings, become more aware of the unspoken messages you are sending to others. Effectively leading a busy eyecare team while delivering eye health and visual acuity recommendations to nervous patients mean understanding how your message is shaped by your feelings or attitudes.1
Body language and tone of voice are as important as the words you speak. There is an oft-quoted study by Albert Mehrabian on how people decide whether they like one another.
Simply put, employees don’t stay in the employment of a doctor they do not like and patients will seldom return for follow-up care. Your ‘first impression’ is the sum of the following:
So what did a successful actor like John Wayne know that we would do well to apply in our offices?
The percentages are subject to change. People (employees and patients) pay more attention to the non-verbal indicators when they trust the person less and suspect deception. It is also generally understood that voice tone and body language are harder to control than words.
Doctors who exemplify this
The following fictitious doctors are all articulate practitioners who say one thing while communicating something else nonverbally, with disastrous results:
Evaluating nonverbal signs
Evaluating nonverbal signals2
Is eye contact being made? If so, is it overly intense or just right?
What is their face showing? Is it mask-like and unexpressive, or emotionally present, genuine, and filled with interest?
Tone of voice
Does their voice project warmth, confidence, and interest, or is it strained and blocked?
Posture and gesture
Are their bodies relaxed or stiff and immobile? Are shoulders tense and raised, or slightly sloped?
Is there any physical contact? Is it appropriate to the situation? Does it make you feel uncomfortable?
Do they seem flat, cool, and disinterested, or over-the-top and melodramatic?
Timing and pace
Is there an easy flow of information back and forth? Do nonverbal responses come too quickly or too slowly?
Do you hear sounds that indicate caring or concern?
It is almost impossible not to communicate. Albert Mehrabian never claimed that words weren’t important. The way you listen, look, move, and react tells the other person whether or not you care, if you’re being truthful, and how well you’re listening. When your nonverbal signals match up with the words you’re saying, they increase trust, clarity, and rapport. When they don’t, they generate tension, mistrust, and confusion.
Becoming a better communicator
If you want to become a better communicator, it’s important to become more sensitive not only to the body language and nonverbal cues of others, but also to your own. Start by trying to imitate John Wayne at his best. During the latter half of the 1940s, Wayne was cast as Captain Kirby York in what many film fans and critics regard as being among his finest work, notably the "cavalry trilogy" (Fort Apache, She Wore a Yellow Ribbon, and Rio Grande).
Wayne pulled it off because the audience believed he was a cowboy. Will your employees and patients believe you in the starring role of a good communicator? Just like an actor in the movies, it's our nonverbal communication-our facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, and tone of voice-that speak the loudest.
The ability to understand and use nonverbal communication, or body language, is a powerful tool that can help you connect with others, express what you really mean, and build better relationships. As you begin to pay attention to the nonverbal cues you give and receive, your ability to grow your practice will improve.
Happy Communicating, Little Pilgrim!
1. Mehrabian, A. and Wiener, M. (1967). Decoding of inconsistent communications, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 6, 109-114
Mehrabian, A., and Ferris, S.R. (1967), Inference of Attitudes from Nonverbal Communication in Two Channels, Journal of Consulting Psychology, 31, 3, 48-258
Mehrabian, A. (1971). Silent messages, Wadsworth, California: Belmont
Mehrabian, A. (1972). Nonverbal communication. Aldine-Atherton, Illinois: Chicago
2. Black, Smith and Brown scenarios modified from information and the evaluating nonverbal signals table source. http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/nonverbal-communication.htm